Kate De Brito modern day agony aunt at News.com.au had an interesting post the other day when someone asked if it was ok for him to have an affair online if it was minus the sex.
This is something that my wife and I have discussed over time, as many of my co workers online are female, and of necessity we spend a lot of time communicating.
The man in question had met a lady from the US while in Europe, and had spent some time with her.
Apparently since then they have been communicating by phone and email, and he calls it “an affair without sex”.
I’d read this post yesterday, and had almost forgotten about it when Ange and Teeg showed me this article from the New York Times about the number of partners that males and females have.
Apparently this bloke is a mathematical genius, and has worked out that if studies show that men on average have 7 heterosexual relationships, and women have 4, then the figures don’t match!
As I said to Teeg and Ange it wasn’t me, it’s all a lie and I wasn’t even there!
The fact of the matter about the sexless romance is that the guy is cheating on his wife, and gaining emotional support from someone else outside of the relationship with his wife.
Obviously there is a problem there in communication, and he needs to get his butt into gear and think about the cost.
He says that he has two kids, but he shows no regard for them, or his wife.
Relationships can fail for a number of reasons, and if this one fails, it is simply due to one husband’s oafish selfishness.
As for the New York caper, I’d say that it comes down to male exaggeration…
Looking for something new with a different partner every time things get hard doesn’t solve any problems, but rather sweeps them under the carpet.
From my observations over the years, the problems eventually surface in the new relationship, simply because whatever the underlying problem has never been dealt with, and has been carried on into the new relationship.
Besides, there is all sorts of pain involved…
