Is It Possible To Have An Affair Without Sex
Kate De Brito modern day agony aunt at News.com.au had an interesting post the other day when someone asked if it was ok for him to have an affair online if it was minus the sex.
This is something that my wife and I have discussed over time, as many of my co workers online are female, and of necessity we spend a lot of time communicating.
The man in question had met a lady from the US while in Europe, and had spent some time with her.
Apparently since then they have been communicating by phone and email, and he calls it “an affair without sex”.
I’d read this post yesterday, and had almost forgotten about it when Ange and Teeg showed me this article from the New York Times about the number of partners that males and females have.
Apparently this bloke is a mathematical genius, and has worked out that if studies show that men on average have 7 heterosexual relationships, and women have 4, then the figures don’t match!
As I said to Teeg and Ange it wasn’t me, it’s all a lie and I wasn’t even there!
The fact of the matter about the sexless romance is that the guy is cheating on his wife, and gaining emotional support from someone else outside of the relationship with his wife.
Obviously there is a problem there in communication, and he needs to get his butt into gear and think about the cost.
He says that he has two kids, but he shows no regard for them, or his wife.
Relationships can fail for a number of reasons, and if this one fails, it is simply due to one husband’s oafish selfishness.
As for the New York caper, I’d say that it comes down to male exaggeration…
Looking for something new with a different partner every time things get hard doesn’t solve any problems, but rather sweeps them under the carpet.
From my observations over the years, the problems eventually surface in the new relationship, simply because whatever the underlying problem has never been dealt with, and has been carried on into the new relationship.
Besides, there is all sorts of pain involved…
It’s definitely possible. The last couple years we have stopped chatting on our computers because they take up too much time and were causing unnecessarily hassles.
If you like to talk a lot to everyone it can cause misunderstandings especially if you don’t have proper boundaries. It also takes away from family time. I’m happy to have evenings free to chat with my husband.
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You should absolutely not do this, it is still an affair whether there is sex or not. It still hurts your spouse, and yes I know from experience.
My now ex-husband his first affair was via the phone. I guess since he got away with that one he thought he could take it to a new level with the next. I found out about this one and the rest, and him, is history.
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I guess that a more proper title would have been “Is it RIGHT to have an affair without sex…?”
As I say in the post, the guy is still cheating, and is getting some sort of emotional support that rightfully should be a part of his relationship with his wife.
And as was noted on the original story, sooner rather than later sex does come into the relationship if it continues as is.
This is something that my wife and I have discussed over time, as many of my co workers online are female, and of necessity we spend a lot of time communicating.
I think that the discussion is the key part – being open with each other is the key..
Cheers