There Are Five Points On A Compass

Today’s title comes from a quote by Frank Bettger, who said:

“There are 5 points to a compass: North, East, South, West ..and where you are now!”

Years ago, when I was single, I had a sudden flash of inspiration (a revelation?) that turned my attitude to relationships around.

I stopped looking for a partner!

I decided instead to concentrate on my life, and on being who I am, rather than looking for someone else to fulfill my dreams.

You see, I realized that I’d been looking at meeting my needs, rather than on being someone that a potential partner would want to be with.

Totally selfish of me, I know, but I know too that there are probably millions of people in the same boat.

And further, I know that if we seek our identity through being married to the person of our dreams, then we are going to be sorely disappointed.

I like what Frank Bettger said here. So often, people can trot out some really inspiring quotes, but leave out the key parts.

As a result, they can look like some sort of demigod, looking as though they have attained a level of enlightenment, while neglecting to share simple steps on how to get there.

The author of this quote though gives us a bit of insight, and down home advice:

Setting goals is good, but you need to work out where you are, and how you are going to get there, to achieve them.

(That’s a long winded way to say that “there are five points..)

Frank Bettger was a businessman, writer and lecturer who played Major League Baseball in the early part of the 20th century.

He was born in 1888 and died in 1981 (Wikipedia)

Now, I know you’re dying to know (but were to afraid to ask) what happened after I gave up looking for a partner, right?

Well, I’m going to tell you anyway.

Just after that decision, my whole world turned upside down.

I ended up out of work, and moved to another town looking for employment.

That’s where I met Suzanne.

Thirty years and four beautiful kids later, we’re still here enjoying life together.

So, be careful what you pray for, because God may just pick you up by the ankles and shake everything that’s holding you back out.

You see, after I stopped grizzling about being single, I started to pray “Lord Change ME!”

You’ve been warned!

Thanks to Te-ge Bramhall for sharing this quote with me today.

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