Having An Online Affair And Making It Seem Like Someone Elses Fault
My recent post on An Affair Without Sex has raised some comment, and has been quite popular.
As has often happened, I mistitled it and should have called it “Is It Right To Have An Affair…?”
Of course, my answer to that is no. Why cause the grief and heartache for a fleeting moment of pleasure?
The person who asked the original question justified his actions by the fact that no sex had taken place. He also mentioned that he was in a good relationship, and that he was a loving father.
Whether the guy was for real or not is open to question, but the age old line of “my wife/husband/partner doesn’t understand me” is simply a means of blaming the person who is going to get hurt the most.
While we feel may an attraction to others, whether we are talking about an online scenario or not, it doesn’t mean that we have to act on it.
I guess that many times when a partner is unfaithful, the question could be asked as to whether they were committed to the relationship in the first place.
Is it because they are addicted to that “feeling” of being in love? Is it the romance, or fantasy that attracts them?
Or, is it because they are not getting the emotional fulfillment that they need at home?
Years ago someone I knew left his wife of a number of years and started dating a work colleague.
The second woman copped a lot of flack of course, while the white haired warrior was reveling in the knowing winks and nods of others.
An interesting point to be made is the different views about the man and the ‘other woman’.
When does trouble start?
It could be said that the marriage was in trouble long before.
Then again, some people just don’t care, and can’t see the hurt that they have caused.
Is there a sign, or a wake up call that can avert disaster?
A simple answer is to keep communication channels open, and maintain trust.
Taking each other for granted is one of the worst things a couple can allow to happen.
Circumstances change, and people can change too. Keeping pace with each other, and changing together as a couple as well as individually is a great way to maintain a relationship.
Hooray, its Saturday, and I’ve had time on my hands that I have used to play around on Youtube.
A favorite song of mine over the years was “Put another Log On The Fire” – and I used to kid my wife about cooking me up some bacon ‘n some beans, until she asked me which one of her sisters I took driving.
Now there’s a scary thought (and if you knew my sisters in law, you’d know just how scary… 😀 ) it sort of took all the fun out of teasing her.
The song was originally recorded by
Over the ages, there have been countless love affairs, or love triangles and the inevitable broken hearts as a result.
Story tellers have written about them, and singers have sung about them.
Patti Page recorded “The Tennessee Waltz” in about 1950, but I have included a more recent version featuring Bonnie Raitt and Norah Jones.
Norah Jones
Norah Jones is an American singer, songwriter, guitarist and keyboard player of Anglo-American/Bengali descent.
Her debut album, “Come Away With Me” was released in 2002. Blending pop with soul and jazz, the album reached number 1 on the Billboard 200!
Bonnie Raitt
Bonnie Raitt is an American blues singer, songwriter, musician and philanthropist.
She began playing guitar while still at school, and released her first album for Warner Bros, title “Bonnie Raitt, in 1971.
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