Children Misbehaving On Social Networking Sites And Parents’ Heartbreak
Next time I hear people wail ‘parental responsibility’ when it comes to bullying on line, I have a link to show them!
The fact is that parents can take all the action they like to discipline their kids, but their hands are tied because of their children’s ‘rights’.
I remember my kids coming home from school and telling me that they had been taught that I had no right to discipline them, and that if my wife or I dared, then they could call the police to have us charged.
My response to this was simply: “That’s fine, our rules are there for your good! If you break the rules, discipline follows, full stop!”
I then went on to explain that they would in all probability be taken away from us, and put with strangers who they didn’t know!
Don’t get me wrong, discipline in our house was never over strict, and certainly not abusive, but to teach children properly, there have to be guidelines.
And there have to be rewards and restrictions or punishments for different behavior.
That’s the way kids learn. OK, I can hear you say try reasoning with them, but anyone who has tried to deal with a two year old bent on getting or doing something knows just how much sense that is going to make.
So it was with disgust that I read this article from News Ltd earlier today!
A father who restricted his 12 year old daughter’s activities because she posted inappropriate material on a site was hauled into court and sued by the girl.
A system, and a society that screams ‘where are the parents?’ when kids get into trouble needs to stop and take a good, long hard look at itself.
Time and again parents are blamed and vilified when kids and teens get into trouble, and yet when they try and take action, their hands are tied.
Do gooders can cry and wring their hands about all the terrible things that these kids , and adults, get up to on Myspace, Bebo and Facebook, yet when one father decides to try and do something about what his daughter is up to, his hands are tied.
Maybe he did choose the wrong thing to try and discipline her with, but for goodness sake, suing him?
What’s the world coming to? Am I just too old fashioned?
This is appalling! I’ve been noticing for quite a few years now how kids are being told that if they don’t like the parents rules or they are disciplined or punished in some way, to just call Child Protective Services and say “I’m being abused” even when they’re not being abused.
You’re right; society has gone nuts. When parents discipline their own child with restrictions like taking away computer access, or grounding a child, not allowing a child to go on a class trip etc, parents are treated as though they’re abusing their child. Parents are often Damned if they do and Damned if they don’t when trying to discipline they’re own children.
Society has come up with so many “Don’ts” as far as how to discipline children, and the “Do’s” are getting smaller and smaller. No wonder society is filled with kids who have no respect for any authority, especially their own parents, and often do whatever they want and sometimes get into so much trouble that parents then have to hire and pay for a lawyer when the kid gets arrested even though they did everything they could to discipline their child. The world has gone nuts.
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Once I became a parent I noticed there was a group of older people who complained about the kids of today being out of control and unruly. Yet these were the same people who would call child abuse hotlines if they heard you even raise your voice to your child. Yet they also were the generation that spanked their own children with padddles and switches.
There must be strict rules that are enforced (without abuse of course) so kids will mind.
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Yes, sometimes it’s easy to forget! Perhaps they do it because they regret their own mistakes?
Thanks Lin – the pendulum has to swing back to center some time soon though doesn’t it? A lot of what happens today is due to theory that has now been tested and wanting. While the image of white picket fences and life in the fifties before all this started is a little anachronistic, we do need to go back and restore the time tested values!